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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Round_Ad_4279 on 2023-07-29 08:03:05.
Hello Reddit, throwaway account for obvious reasons
I’m guy who turned nineteen in January. I graduated in June, earlier during the year I got accepted to a college in my state.
To give you some background information on why this is big news. I’m the only person in my family to so, no cousins, grandparents, or any of my five siblings were able to do so. So it was a big deal.
There were several obstacles however, such as being held back by my mother as a third grader to take care of my younger brother. (This will come into play later) But hey I did it. I graduated with good grades and a path ahead.
I have a younger brother, 18 m, a year younger than me. He is severely disabled and mentally stunted, he’s also very aggressively and around 300 pounds and six feet tall. Growing up I always felt like a second class citizen to my brother, he always got the nicest things and got the better treatment. All of that I could handle but my mom expects me to always look after him. My dad left my mom for the same reason all my other siblings have. she don’t understand that he needs to be put into a home.
It got so bad to the point where the only sleepover I was invited to I couldn’t go because I was forced to watch my brother. As you can understand, my brother is a little abusive when he doesn’t get his way, and a part of me hates him for taking away my childhood.
I did my Fafsa with my counselor and everything, however I was short around $200 So I went to my mom. And I know what you’re thinking. “Oh why don’t you just have a job” my parents didn’t allow me to have a job because they would joke about how my job is taking care of my brother. And how they pay me in free food and free housing. I had hoped she could loan me some money; just enough to pay off my first semester, (I have work study for two weeks so I’ll have most of the money)
When I told my mom she was irate. She went ballistic about how selfish I was to leave her. And how my brother will be devastated and that I can’t leave because who will take care of their son.
This made me snap and I released 19 years of neglect, abuse, onto my mother. She began crying but I told her how I felt. I told her she has three other kids who could help but in reality I know that’s not true. My other siblings left the moment they turned 18 cause they couldn’t deal with the abuse from disabled brother. A part of me is beginning to feel bad for leaving. I once promised her I’d never leave but I can’t be here anymore.
Before you guys worry, I’m not getting kicked out, I go off to college on august 16th but things have been extremely tense. She keeps trying to guilt trip me into not going.
Lived with my brother and was severely neglected and overlooked. Was forced to be a third parent to my brother, graduated and got into college when no one else and my family did, asked my mom for a small loan but she is angry and wants me to stay to look after my bro