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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Klutzy-Main-3064 on 2023-07-29 05:44:09.
I’ve been friends with this girl let’s call her Sarah for 4 years and I would consider her as my best friend, I was more financially stable and lived in my own house since 19 and Sarah still live with her parents. I am always the friend who would take her out on friendship dates, parties, bought her birthday and Christmas gifts even gave her a spare key to my house for her to bring guys over and my mom paid for her last term of college, which I had no problems with as I understood her situation.
Unfortunately sarah lost her mother to cancer recently and she didn’t tell me I had to find out days later from her family member, the day I found out I rushed to her house with food and flowers to show my condolences and try to comfort her as any friend would. Later that same night I got a disturbing phone call my childhood best friend and business partner (let’s call him josh) met in a serious car accident and was in the hospital in critical condition. At the time I got the call the phone was on speaker and I was so shocked I broke down crying and Sarah just got up and went in her room.
After I got my strength back I walked to her room telling her Josh met in a car accident and unfortunately I would have to leave and go to the hospital to see if there’s anything I could offer to him or his family, Sarah said nothing. I thought to myself she’s grieving right now so i understand. The next evening I went by Sarah’s house to take her food and supplies as I know she probably haven’t ate anything all day. I spent a few hours at her house trying to comfort her, because I know of her and her family financial issues my family and I paid half of her mother funeral services.
I called and text her every hour that I wasn’t able to make it to her house to try and comfort her in anyway possible and she didn’t respond, so I thought because she’s grieving. A week later Josh passed away. I was devastated, I went to my friend Sarah for comfort as Josh and Sarah were my only close friends. Sarah didn’t pick up my calls so I texted her telling her Josh had passed away she viewed it and didn’t reply, I followed up with letting her know I’m coming by with food for her, she didn’t reply or even open the door to let me in.
A month passed and her and her family members posted on social media pictures at the funeral (I wasn’t invited). I called her for the whole day and she didn’t answer. She later posted on social media she has no friends and she doesn’t want anyone calling her phone (I know the post was aimed towards me) the next day I called my mom we went to her school and canceled her tuition check that my mom paid for her next term. I know that’s insensitive but AITA?.
Edit. All of Sarah’s other “friends” were present at the funeral. My mom and I cancelled her tuition because we felt disrespected and used. We were preparing for the funeral because we wanted to support her.