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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/ZetaWMo4 on 2023-07-29 01:18:06.

So I’m moving my last baby into college in a few weeks. A few months back I decided to join the Facebook group for the incoming class at my son’s school. He’s the fourth kid I’m sending off to college but this is the first time I’ve participated in a parents’ group like this. I figured it’d be a good place to connect with other parents and see what kind of stuff they’re bringing and stuff like that. For the most part that’s what it is.

However, it’s becoming clear that some of these parents are sending these kids to college unprepared for life. I know this isn’t a new phenomenon by any means but actually seeing it with my own eyes is staggering. Some of these questions people ask are like:

-Who is going to make sure my kid is in bed by 11?

-Can I stay with my kid until they get acclimated to college?

-Who do I call to have my kid’s room cleaned?

The more alarming posts are coming from these certified boy moms. (I can only speak for the group I’m in but it’s mostly mothers who are posting and not dads. My own husband looked at me like I was crazy when I told him I joined). I figured that I’d see a couple unreasonable questions here and there. No. Because move in is in a few weeks the crazy questions have been everywhere:

-Who is going to wake my son up and make sure he gets to class on time?

-Who is going to be doing my son’s laundry? (Some schools have this service but not this one)

-Who is going to make sure my son doesn’t have girls in his room?

-Can I get access to my son’s laundry room so I can wash them for him?

-Will there be someone to monitor my son’s gaming time?

-How can I be sure my son eats enough?

I feel like I’m in the Twilight Zone reading those posts. I almost want to ask them “what have you been teaching this kid the past 18 years they’ve been in your house?" It took no real effort on my part to make sure that my son knows how to take care of himself and be semi-independent. These sons and daughters being raised and coddled by these helicopter moms will either learn independence in college(hopefully) or feel like it’s someone else’s job to do these basic tasks well into their adulthood. I’m both scared and sad for these kids going forward.