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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/The_Glam_Reaper on 2023-07-28 07:59:06.
tagging this as NSFW just in case this makes anyone uncomfortable. Also there might be mention of adult subject matter. So I work with many different people. It is a very diverse work space. Just so you all know I am queer and enby. So this is not because of me being homophobic or anything.
To start things off I work in a small art studio building. I do not get paid much. But it is what I love to do. Half of the people working there are LGBT+ We usually get along pretty well. One day Q(I will not give his real name) brought in his boyfriend. He introduced him by his name. I will call him K. But as soon as the introductions end he starts calling him Daddy. I mean he does it a lot. I have no problem if they do that at home. I just feel very uncomfortable with people calling their partners Mommy or Daddy. I try not to shame them. But this is my work space. So I told him to please refrain from calling him Daddy at work.
He accused me of kink shaming, and internalized homophobia. It really hurt. Some people at work are on my side. Others not on my side. Here is the thing. I try to respect how other people feel. If I brought my partner into work I would not refer to them as my sissy or my bitch. That is a private thing. If I ever said anything that made someone uncomfortable I would try to correct myself. It is not about just me. It is about the work place being a comfortable space for everyone. I can not mention here why I am uncomfortable with this. It would break the rules. But it triggers me for some reason. I do not want to bring it up at work. But AITA?