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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/GarnetSheIs on 2023-07-28 05:39:51.
My step mom(48F) and my dad (60M) are separating after almost 20 years of marriage and my stepmom is moving back to our home state across the country. This I have no issue with as I’ve never had a good relationship with her nor do I have to the desire to. The real problem is she was wanting to leave her severely disabled son(27M) with my father who is also disabled and when she realized that my dad looking him wasn’t a feasible option she decided to ask me(30F). I already have 3 children of my own one of which is also disabled and I am newly divorced with zero means of taking in another mouth to feed. I also hold a lot of resentment towards my stepmother due to her practically designating me as her children’s secondary caretaker when I was only a child myself.
Well that’s exactly what I told her and that she needs to either take her son with her, finding a willing person to help out, or to find another solution. Well now she’s crying to everyone in the family and I’m getting multiple texts from family telling me that I’m being an asshole and that I need to “just forgive her for her “mistakes” and help her in her time of need” so AITA?