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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Glynebbw on 2023-07-27 16:36:19.
I’m not sure if I’m being a brideszilla here so would appreciate honesty.
I’ve been friends with Sarah since we were 12 and we’re 31 now.
When she got married I was maid of honour, planned and hosted her hen/bachelorette at my house, paying for the food and drinks and having everyone sleep over.
Now I’m getting married. She has a baby that will be 13 months at the time of the hen do.
I was told today by my friend arranging the hen do that Sarah isn’t coming.
To be honest, I feel really put out that she hasn’t text me to say she can’t come. I understand there’s a million reasons why someone wouldn’t go, particularly mums, but after the effort I put into hers I think it’s really shitty she didn’t text me to say sorry, can’t come but hope you have fun etc etc.
She’s also one of my two bridesmaids (the other is planning the hen)
Am I being a brideszilla? I haven’t said anything to her yet but I’m considering telling her this is disappointing.
Edit: quite a few comments mentioning that attending could be hard with a baby and I need to appreciate that. This is not what I’m upset about. If she can’t come because she’s not ready to leave baby that’s fine. I’m upset she didn’t bother to tell me and just dropped out without saying anything.