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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/iman_sahra on 2023-07-27 13:29:42.
(Posting this on behalf of my sister cause she’s not on Reddit)
I (f23) decided to go on holiday with my friend (f23) in Barcelona. She paid the hotel expenses in advance and then just before leaving I obviously had to pay her my half (around 200€). Problem is she gave me the wrong bank details after I asked her MULTIPLE times to double check just in case, but she still managed to send me her wrong details. I obviously asked her again “are you sure this is your account?” And she said “yes I confirm this is my bank account”. So I went ahead and I sent my half to said account and surprise, turns out that wasn’t her account. I tried to block the transaction but the lucky person accepted it right away. I then called my bank to try and see if I could get the money and they said it could take over a month but we obviously need the money cause we’re leaving in a few days.
Now my friend expects me to pay half of my part again because she thinks that even though this was completely her fault I should still pay at least half of my half (so 100€) to help. I don’t agree because I asked her multiple times to double check before confirming the payment and she almost made fun of me obsessing over this. And now that she made the mistake I’m still expected to pay?
She’s giving me the silent treatment and honestly I’m not even in the mood to go now. I wanted to celebrate my graduation and I feel like this holiday is now kinda ruined because of a silly mistake. I’m also short on money and I’ve been saving up for over a year and I can’t afford to pay 100€ extra. If I had the money, I honestly would have paid her my entire half again even though that was her mistake but then she started acting all weird and lecturing me on real friendship saying that true friends shouldn’t act like this. This added more fuel to the fire and I feel like she’s painting me to be this cruel and manipulative friend for simply not wanting to pay again. She also doesn’t understand that I simply do not have the money.
So I ask you guys, am I the asshole for not wanting to pay again? Please be honest