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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Character-Evidence-9 on 2023-07-27 10:30:02.
I am getting married next year & have decided I really don’t want my cousin (k) children at the wedding. Through the years K has been a diva & narrow minded. I’ve heard her come out with some horrific comments about people of other ethnicities, religions and LGBTQ (I have always challenged her on this). I also know for a fact she wouldn’t acknowledge ‘my kind’ (i.e. my family/ catholics) if we weren’t related.
As an adult, I had hope she’d reflected. But she recently proved me wrong during the death of my granny. My family (who are all MD’s) could see that my granny was deteriorating in the months before, yet K always insinuated that we and granny were dramatic. K sat making b*tchy comments about my granny while she lying in front of her, actively passing away. At the wake they took down all of GRANNIES photos of her friends and family together and replaced them with pictures of K’s kids(despite K barely ever visiting and charging my granny the last time she did- which was driving her to an appointment). At the funeral she made numerous subtle digs about grannies religion and said it was ‘ironic’ that everyone only told nice stories granny… the same person that gave her thousands.
I never responded, because she’s not worth my time but I do not want to pay for her to be at my wedding and sit and offend my guests. My mother says I have to as I only have 2 cousins and it will likely cause my aunt to lose it and take it out on her and me. I’ve said that if i make that exception then there’s no way I’m paying and extra (140pp) for her 2 kids, when my partners family and best friends (who I love) arent bringing there’s …so why make an exception for K. I still know their family will go ballistic at this.
WIBTA for making if child free for this reason given the kids aren’t to blame? As a side note my partner also wants the wedding to have no kids (mainly because he doesn’t like children).