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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Teaformylov on 2023-07-27 10:18:51.
My Husband (39) and me (33) are having our 2nd child and my 3rd child over all (I have a child from a previous marriage). My husband works a full time job and I run my own at home bakery and sell at farmers markets. I’m maybe 4-6 weeks at this point so still very early and will be going to my first appt in a few weeks. I have been feeling very sick the past few days to the point that some days housework does not get done. Last night I was up until about 1am because I felt so bad I couldn’t sleep. My husband comes home from work, I tell him the dog been crying the whole time he has been gone. He replied back “or maybe it’s that shit smell.” I get upset at this and ask him what he is talking about. He was apparently talking about the mint sented oil i had on a cotton ball to keep me from getting sick. Which I tell him a little angry “that doesn’t mean you have to be mean about it, because that oil is the only thing keeping me from getting sick”
Then from there he see Wendy’s in the trash can and gets upset that I had taken the kids for Wendy’s drive threw for dinner, and that I had not done any housework or dishes (we have no dish washer so I have to hand wash everything). He also proceeded to tell me the pregnant women at his work can do their job and don’t feel sick, and wanted me to exsplain to him why this is. I can’t really explain why but tried anyway telling him “idk they probably do feel as bad as I do or maybe they have medicine to help keep them from feel as bad”. He tried to justify that it was ok for him to be upset because the house smelled bad to him (he does not like mint), the AC was on to high, getting take out is my answer to everything and that he is allowed to feel how he feels.
edit post for those keep saying homemaker I have time to clean. I’m am not. I own my own at Home Bakery with a business license that brings in $400-$800 in a given week in just baked goods alone. (I sell other items as well) And the take out is maybe 1 or 2 a week when I don’t have time to cook dinner. (Ether due to a sporting event my olds is 10, or because I am setting at an event that all I have time to get is drive threw)