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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/romebie on 2023-07-27 10:03:40.
i see a lot of women on this subreddit and in general talk about the negative experiences they’ve had with men (not saying i’m better, i absolutely do it too and can empathize), but i feel like there aren’t many women who talk openly about being hurt or mistreated by other women just as badly.
the experiences i had with bullying, exclusion, and insecurity throughout my childhood and during school came almost exclusively from other female peers. i feel like i can recall way more times hurtful things were said by other women than by men, and it’s not even close.
i just wish it wasn’t so stigmatized to acknowledge how mean girls can be to each other, and i wish it was easier to talk about these experiences openly in feminist spaces without being called “not like other girls” or a “pick me.” i genuinely like other girls and want to be around other girls, but it’s been so difficult for me to make/keep female friendships because i feel like there’s inevitably something that happens.
i feel like this might be unpopular but i if i have to pick between a male friend who might be attracted to me, or a female friend that might be saying shady things behind my back, it seems like a pretty obvious choice. i’m still in college so hopefully this will improve as time goes on lol. if any other women have had similar experiences i’m curious to know if/how things have improved!
this is a bit of a vent post and i don’t mean to generalize whatsoever, just speaking on my experiences. sorry if the formatting is weird i’m on mobile.