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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/aita-726 on 2023-07-26 22:49:33.
So this argument is happening right now because my extended family are all at my parents’ house for a visit and my cousin decided that she wanted to make a big meal for everybody. I didn’t have any of the main dish and was just eating the side dishes, which my cousin hadn’t made.
Eventually my cousin noticed this and asked me why I wasn’t eating anything, and I said I don’t really trust her because of this incident from years ago, which turned into an argument. She thinks I’m being shitty towards her by still caring about something that happened a long time ago, and I think she’s got a lot of cheek to do something shitty to me and then be mad when I still remember it later.
So here’s the incident from back when:
My cousin wanted to make dinner for everyone at a family gathering. She said she had a new recipe for lasagna that she wanted to try out. While she was cooking, I asked her if she needed any help in the kitchen. She said that she didn’t want my help or for me to be in the kitchen at all because the recipe was a “family secret” from her husband’s side of the family.
However, it turned out that the reason she didn’t want me in the kitchen was specifically because she knew that I didn’t like cottage cheese, and so she didn’t want me to know that she was putting cottage cheese into the lasagna as a ricotta substitute.
I found this out after dinner when she asked me how I had liked the lasagna. When I said it was delicious she got all smug about how she had gotten me to eat cottage cheese. I have no idea why she made such a big deal about it, but she even admitted that this was why she’d kicked me out of the kitchen.
I thought it was rude and shitty for her to basically lie to me about what was in my food for no reason other than to I guess feel like she got one over on me somehow. She just doubled down that it was funny that she got me to eat cottage cheese and that I liked it. That whole experience just turned me off from eating her cooking.
So AITA here?