If I may answer with an example. My sibling is very emotional and not as good as studying and has therefore received a decent amount of money for not only their entire education but also living expenses. Because I got a scholarship and work other jobs, I was on my own. I’ve always resented it as being punished for working harder.

IDK how I would handle it with my children because I want to give fair opportunities but from the child’s perspective it is hard. Giving the same money would be best.