Comment on ‘I just assumed it would happen’: the unspoken grief of childless men
MarkHughes4096@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I’m 47 and without kids, I was always indifferent to them and decided if I got with somebody who wanted one then it would happen, Once my sisters had kids I lost any remaining interest in the idea, I don’t think I would be a good dad as a result of my indifference. My Mrs is very much not interested in them either, Not a good environment for a kid to grow up in I feel. Sometimes people think it’s ok to ask why not, For me that question isn’t a problem but I can understand how it might be a massive problem for those who wanted them and for whatever reason didn’t get any.
I am slightly surprised by a quarter though, Had you asked me before I would have said a few percent tops…
Emperor@feddit.uk 1 year ago
My oldest best friend came up to me and said that he always saw that I liked kids and got on well with them but he never really got it. However, his wife wanted one so he went along with it, then the moment he held his daughter in his arms it all clicked. Given that he doesn’t talk much and says even less about his feelings this was very touching and it’s great for him but there are, presumably, other people who didn’t have that Damascene conversion and that would be a nightmare.
So, yes, I fully appreciate where you are coming from there.