Comment on Do you ever get frustrated at your own creation?
dubyakay@lemmy.ca 3 days ago
I’m 45 and have never felt this way.
You should seek help imo. Or simply keep talking about it with others, like you attempt to do here. But less spending time online would probably help.
fine_sandy_bottom@lemmy.federate.cc 3 days ago
I’ve never queried my parents intentions or motivations.
They weren’t great parents nor were they terrible. I think they did their best given their resources, knowledge, and societal norms.
I have however managed various mental health issues most of my adult life, and I know that most issues which make me miserable, would not make me miserable if I were not already miserable. For example, when I’m stressed and miserable I tend to get fixated on things happening at work and stress about them a lot more than is really warranted.
I can’t say I can relate to how OP feels, but I feel as though, if my dad told me I was an accident and unwanted or whatever that might change how I feel about him, but it wouldn’t really change how I feel about me.
For any person alive today, if you followed your ancestry back even just a handful of generations I’m sure there are unwanted pregnancies.