Final Fantasy seems the one for you to be honest.

The player base is quite chill and overall enjoy playing casually, doing RP, decorating the house, etc. Crafting is actually interesting instead of just seeing a bar fill up!

I would not recommend ESO as it’s very very very choke full of microtransactions and you actually will have a bad experience playing without ESO Plus (restricted space in bags, most content locked).

The same can be said for GW2 really and on top of that, it’s way less polished than FF.

Just try FF, I couldn’t stomach the classic oriental style cinematic and the quests until lvl 60 can get really frustrating (fetch quests) but overall it has the better potential considering your taste IMHO.