Lie on back. Sit cat on chest (if you have boobs this is a big cat comfort plus). Gently rub ears, paying attention to cat grinding towards where they want rubbings. first two fingers on the back, thumbs at the front of the ear, circular motions, some gentle pulling out towards the sides. Misha gets her ears cleaned then a massage that starts on the ears and goes down the cheeks under the chin until she’s drooled a puddle six foot wide and no longer complains about ear cleanings.

Downside: the little shit will expect ear rubs on demand.