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Comment on Why do people around me tend to increase their responsibility load (i.e. have children, become a manager, do charity, etc.) while I (30M) try to avoid it as much as I can?

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rowrowrowyourboat@sh.itjust.works ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

Meh. Your value as a human isn’t tied to your accomplishments (be it having a family or getting a high paid job) or productivity.

This whole thing of “striving as a honed skill” sounds like hustling culture and capitalist brainwashing. In fact, I would say it takes more skill to actually be content with your life and not feel the constant need to strive to be someone better or do something more.

You seem to think that unless you’ve done something, you’re worthless.

It seems that according to your view, a homeless person without a family is completely worthless.

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drphungky@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
That’s a pretty unfair characterization. He called out multiple times how it’s fine for the other guy if that’s what he wants, but that it’s not his own specific wants. And his central thesis is fine: coasting is fine as long as you’re going to be ok with where you coast to. If you want to be somewhere else then coasting is not fine - but it’s up to you where you want to go.

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Yaztromo@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
I pretty specifically called out striving to create things like family or helping improve your community through volunteer works — which isn’t “capitalism” at all.

Each of us can always be someone better and do something more. That isn’t a bad thing.

You end by trying to put words in my mouth. I never said anything about the worth of anyone over anyone else. Striving for the betterment of oneself, one’s loved ones, and one’s community is a good thing — but the antithesis of that isn’t that doing none of those things makes you worthless. That’s something you came up with, not me.

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