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• uriel238@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I don’t hate men, but masculinity is a millstone.

  There’s a difference.

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  • HCSOThrowaway@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Elaborate, because your eagle-eye view just seems like a rewording of misandry.

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    • uriel238@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Men are fine. Masculinity in 2026 as an ideology or a cultural institution is a problem.

      Men exist in concerning numbers who submit to the manosphere logic, who follow the far-right influencers I’ve mentioned, who vote R because letting the libs win is effeminate. And curiously, conservative, tradwife-minded women don’t like them much either.

      Manhood as expressed in media isn’t much better, with scriptwriters diegetically presuming the alpha male model is a valid theory. (It’s been debunked even for wolves.)

      There are plenty of men who do not submit to these notions, and generally they tend to not be concerned about expressing their manhood or being seen as inadequately masculine. They are more concerned about being adult or being functional than being manly.

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      • HCSOThrowaway@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Men are fine. Masculinity in 2026 as an ideology or a cultural institution is a problem.

        Is this more or less stating “Men are fine as long as they aren’t masculine?”

        You’re going to have to define what “man” “woman” “masculine” and “feminine” are in your mind then, because that statement doesn’t logic with any of those definitions that I agree with; it’s like saying “water is fine as long as it contains no H2O.”

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