Treat other people with respect and compassion, no matter how they present themselves. Not performatively, but because you genuinely care about the wellbeing of other people around you. Practice this until it becomes instinctive, until it feels wrong to behave any other way.

That also means not trying to provoke other people on purpose. The most aggravating thing you can do to the people you imagine is refuse to be provoked by them.

You don’t “win” by getting even, you win by living a good life in spite of the behavior of assholes.