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Fallenwout@lemmy.world ⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

I have exactly the same. Therapy doesn’t work. There is no cure other than faking it. You have to let your rational mind win from that primal repulsive feeling. I also feel immense guilt for feeling this way about innocent little humans.

I still avoid children when I can. This has created a gap between my friends and me, they all have kids. I never go to their place, we always meet in public. I never told them but I think they know, because they don’t treat me differently when I tactically withdraw when children get involved.

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Cinner@lemmy.world ⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

Interestingly this is measurable. I have a garmin watch and whenever children are close for 15 mins, I get a relaxation reminder telling me to do breathing exercises. So this mental defect manifests itself physically.

A stress response is a stress response. Maybe you have a bit of a mind/body disconnect - I realized I did many years ago in therapy when I was upset about something and he asked where I felt it and I asked what he meant. I’ve worked on it since, paying attention to whether I feel a tightness in my stomach, chest, butterflies, etc. It’s helped me notice patterns I didn’t before.

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PutangInaMo@lemmy.world ⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
I got 3 kids, don’t blame you one bit. Don’t feel guilty about it, I think it’s normal. Kids are stressful as fuck.

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