Englishgrinn@lemmy.ca 2 days ago
You guys are wimps. (Dog guy gets partial points though, people are psychotic about their dogs). Here’s an actual hot take:
Sex drive, while a strong biological impulse in most people, is nowhere NEAR as powerful or persuasive as we are conditioned to believe. Its almost entirely cultural and formed from Movies, Porn, Advertising and just about every other media artificially elevating it.
Everything, from lighter fare like niche fetish communities, to dark shit like rape, sexual violence and, in some cases misogynistic violence aimed just at women in general, is escalated and enabled by a mass permission structure where we all are just told, and to some extent believe, that Sex is SO powerful. Men become easily manipulated puppets to demonic seductresses. Sexuality can damage reasoning ability. Without sexual release men inevitably become violent brutes. A million other stupid, widely believed things. They have a kernel of truth obviously but they are exaggerated in the extreme, usually to excuse poor behavior by men who are trained from a young age that they not only can, but should turn into a drooling gorilla at the sight of tits.
Think it one step further. Why are they trained to accept the ‘power’ of the libido? What do they get out of it? Answer: they get to satisfy, or at least titilate the libido.
It’s the old paradox of society and desire. Individuals want to feel good. Society cannot function if individuals only seek their own pleasure. How do you satisfy both goals? By twisting them both until they can suffice to get you through to tomorrow.
I wouldn’t be surprised if porn hub is a CIA ops targeting one minority or an other. They always seem to have their hand dipped in anything even remotely shady.
Poik@pawb.social 32 minutes ago
The bigger problem is the lack of communication on the subject leading to these kinda puritanical “sexual desire is bad and makes you do bad things” take that made Kellogg try to kill libido with corn flakes.
I think people need to discuss sexuality in non sexual contexts more often. It needs to be considered less taboo and less explicit when specifically discussing sexual health, which is actually important to discuss. I’m largely asexual, and honest conversations earlier in my life would have helped a lot, because I never understood a lot of the things you point out in media. I know just how much my view differs thanks to conversations with someone with diagnosed hypersexuality whom I think of as a close friend.