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iiGxC@slrpnk.net 8 months agoAnd why would you be ridiculed and scorned for opening up emotionally?
because people are mean and repeat the mean things that have been done to them, and difficult emotions make people uncomfortable and one way to avoid them is punishing people who do open up
FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 8 months ago
I do not have the experience of being punished for opening up. Who has punished you for it?
irmoz@reddthat.com 8 months ago
You’re starting to sound hostile towards people who suffered
FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 8 months ago
No, I just don’t understand it.
irmoz@reddthat.com 8 months ago
The vibe you’re giving is "I didn’t experience that, so you must be confused.’
iiGxC@slrpnk.net 8 months ago
not literally punished, but socially responded to negatively. I’ve been lucky that I haven’t experienced it much (and even then, I still struggle to open up), but it’s a very real thing. For men, one umbrella term that includes this concept is “toxic masculinity”
FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 8 months ago
Yeah, I guess all I can say is I’ve been lucky too. I’ve just never noticed any serious repercussions for showing my emotions. All I can think is that, since I was a pretty unpopular kid growing up, I gave so little of a shit about what the sort of people who would think negatively of me opening up emotionally would think about me that I just didn’t notice it even though it was happening. It would have just been one more dickhead move to ignore.