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dethedrus@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 days agoIt’s honestly depressing to have this ‘power’. I always see the con coming, try to warn those close to me, and get stuck just having to suck it up. Frequently with a manipulative child and her own toxic nightmare of a child.
stickyprimer@lemmy.world 5 days ago
I’ve met a number of people in life who seem to have been raised in nearly perfect circumstances: intelligent, loving parents who gave them the right about of support and structure.
They’re not idiots but they aren’t afraid to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. You might think they must get taken advantage of left and right, but most of these people are also pretty privileged so not traveling in very dangerous circles.
I’ve watched them give someone WAY more trust than I think is wise. Sometimes I turn out to be the idiot and realize they were making a good investment all along.
And in those cases where I turn out to be right, they just realize “oh, this is a bad person,” and they pivot away and move on with their lives.
It’s hard to build friendships, relationships, and even things like business partnerships without trust, and these people have a lot of that to give. Sometimes they even inspire people to be better by giving that trust. In the end I think most of them have pretty full lives with a rich tapestry of people in them.
It really makes you think twice about whether it really is the safest and wisest course of action to be so highly critical and suspicious. Is that really what leads to safety and wellness for us? I think no. And it’s not even meant to - it’s just a way to try to avoid the absolute worst outcomes. And only people who’ve had a taste of that “worst” think like this. It truly is very damaging for them and that’s the saddest part: whatever abuse or wrongdoing they suffered limits them forever.