She’s just her. I think you should keep a record of the races for history and health reasons, but socially, she’s Violet. If you’ve already decided to change her name, that’s cool too, but I really love the name Violeta. She’s your kid, and you get to decide what’s best as her parent. Most folks are just trying to help, but I think it’s nicer to let you and your partner decide what feels right.

For example, if you pick a name, stick with it and make sure people follow it. If you call her Violet, and someone starts calling her Violeta, politely correct them. If her name is Sophie, don’t let people call her Sophia. If it’s Marcos, don’t let them call him Marcus. You get what I mean.

When she’s older and if she wants to go by Violeta instead of Violet, that’s totally her choice and we should respect it.

These early decisions really stick with them for life. It might feel like a lot, but if you and your partner talk it over, share what you want, and stick to your guns, you probably won’t have regrets. As long as you stand behind your choices together, it’ll all be okay.