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BioDriver@lemmy.world 4 days agoAs a short dude myself I wish this were true. I’m confident and have accepted my fate. Yet even when I thought we were grooving and clearly compatible I’d still get hit with “sorry you’re not tall enough,” even when she was like 5’0. I don’t know how the hell I got lucky to get my wife, but she’s clearly the exception not the norm.
SeptugenarianSenate@leminal.space 3 days ago
I think it might come down to some kind of internalized power trip of perceived desirability (to other women perhaps, or maybe their parents or something) by women or girls who promote or attach themselves to those types of frameworks. It’s like a toned down version of people obsessing over boob size, penis size, butt size, facial shape, etc. It’s like there’s no end for some people who go down that route of wanting to be perceived of as perfect in all ways at all times to all people.
It does suck how many people fall into those types of frameworks though. To me it has sometimes felt like, to varying degrees, that my drive to make connections, relate to others, procreate, or seek vindication through others are often at odds with themselves, and that valuing someone for their virtues is not always a typical mode of behavior that people are generally taught to recognize the usefulness of or learn to practice in their own relationships