ramble81@lemmy.zip 4 days ago
My favorite is the stupidly hard line around cheating. Shit happens, relationships are complicated, it’s not an ultimate deal/trust breaker. I’ve had it happen to me and I’m still with them and we trust each other. I also realized there were needs of hers I was not fulfilling, so it wasn’t just her fault.
It makes me wonder if these are the same people that couldn’t handle adoption or someone else’s kid because it’s not “theirs”, rather than looking at it that a kid just needs a loving family.
toastus@feddit.org 4 days ago
ramble81@lemmy.zip 4 days ago
Yeah it’s crazy some of the stories I’ve seen about how a guy doesn’t consider his step kids his own even though he’s raised them since birth. Or find out that the kid wasn’t his due to a mix up of infidelity. Or says that he could never love an adopted child “because it’s not his blood running through their veins”.
Im floored too that quite a few guys think this way, and I’ve heard it from their mouths. I’m very much “blood does not a family make”. But these people think you have to have some chromosomal relation to feel a bond.
toastus@feddit.org 3 days ago
Thanks for the nice reply.
I am sorry I worded my comment so harshly, it was not my finest moment.
I was agitated from another thing in my life and lashed out randomly, I am sorry.
I had since deleted it and hoped it was never seen.
I am very much with you on the topic at hand, blood does not necessarily make great families and great families can be made without blood relations.
ramble81@lemmy.zip 3 days ago
You’re good. No worries