The thing was in TOS that kiss, in-universe, was no biggie. In DS9 with all the gender and sexuality shifts in the Trill scenario, it again just ‘was’. When it was a big deal, it was some alien culture being backwards and the Federation being an example of doing it right.

STD was oddly self-congratulatory. “First ever non-binary character in trek!” they proclaim as people were able to respond with just so many examples of previous non-binary characters. The character despite being a human, being on Earth, had to make a big deal of “coming out” and a big outpouring of support in-universe to balance out the trepidation of coming out. Which should have just been a very mundane scenario, you want the character to be non-binary, fine, they are, people will be respectful but it will be a boring mundane fact rather than some big deal.

Yes, there are those that are flipping out over too much representation that are done consistently with star trek. Probably the most fair point was that someone probably wouldn’t be out of shape, but by that logic, Picard shouldn’t have been bald, so…