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LittleTransPunk@lemmy.world 7 months agoI will admit, I cheated once in my life on one person, and though I feel bad about it I felt justified in doing so as well. It was an extremely toxic relationship where I feared going home and learned to block punches and thrown objects. It was almost a decade ago now, but even all my other relationships I’ve had wouldn’t have felt justification to cheat.
I know I don’t have to say that, but I’d rather people learn from my mistakes and I own up to all my mistakes, justified or not.
My take? Don’t cheat, just find a way, literally any way, to get out. It’s more dangerous to antagonize your abuser than to just escape.
Sanyanov@lemmy.world 7 months ago
Golden words.
Escape.
In abusive relationships you may sometimes feel that living without them is even worse - either due to attachment or financial issues or anything else.
No, it isn’t. Any problem can and will be solved - transition will hurt, but, as just about 100% of people who escaped such relationships will tell you - it is worth it.
Your safety, dignity and mental health are worth way more than what you get in any abusive relationship.