Comment on Am I immature if I feel sad that a subculture that treated me so warmly died out years ago?
just_another_person@lemmy.world 10 hours ago
Essentially, you’re just describing a feeling of “Better Times”, or nostalgia. Nothing wrong with that, and everyone has those feelings.
It becomes a problem when people tend to fixate on that, and not realize that time has passed. Not that you can’t create those conditions and feelings again, but that life circumstances and everything else really make it impossible to replicate that same thing again realistically.
I think it may serve you better to focus on what about that situation made it great for you, and what practical means you have to create a similar social circle again that will approximate those same feelings. It won’t be exactly the same, of course, but it sounds like you have just been feeling somewhat lost without a similar group of people around you.
MotoAsh@piefed.social 8 hours ago
I don’t think nostalgia and “remembering better times” are equivalent.
I can reminisce about “better times” all day, but the feeling is absolutely different when some old stimulus comes on and punches you right in the feels.
just_another_person@lemmy.world 8 hours ago
As others have pointed out, I think you should read the context of what OP is saying.
Had, then lost. Thinking about a lost time. Literally the title.
MotoAsh@piefed.social 8 hours ago
Nope. Just recognizing the nuance between nostalgia and literally remembering better times.
just_another_person@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
I’m not sure what you’re thinking is nuanced. They’re complete separate and distinct ideas.