Parents like this don’t see their children as people with their own growing autonomy, but as appendages of themselves or things they made, and as their self-perceived owners that it is their right and duty to act like fickle and punishing gods. There’s nothing to be done to please or appease them, not that anyone should anyway. I’m sorry for anyone who has to grown up like this and hope you get to rebuild for yourself a peaceful life surrounded with trustworthy people.