I’ve found that trying to find a girlfriend is futile. I’m 45 and have girlfriends whenever I want to deal with that level of drama and commitment.

The trick is to go out and find groups that are also into your hobbies. If you are actively improving yourself to get better at a hobby seems to be attractive to everyone, though I will admit that far more homosexual or bisexual guys hit on me than women, unless I should count the compliments I get, those come from women more often than men, but I don’t know how to gracefully receive a compliment. My standard response is “Thanks, umm [insert something complimentary towards the person in question.]”