Comment on How to Predict a Divorce with 91% Accuracy
zeppo@lemmy.world 7 months ago
YouTube showed me this video today for some I know reason. Seems spot on. All of these things occurred in a recent doomed relationship I had with a very difficult person - especially the stonewalling/ignoring thing which was #2 or whatever.
Uglyhead@lemmy.world 7 months ago
Same here.
‘The thing isn’t the thing’, really resonated with me.
‘We’re fighting to be connected, and when we do feel connected, the thing doesn’t feel so important anymore’
I used to call it “fighting to fuck” because in some relationships I’ve had we would fight just to feel connected it seemed like. There would be this huge blow up and the more intense the fight the more intense the,… —fuck. All very seemingly toxic. Somewhat makes more sense now that it has been put in this light.
Also— we need a good ‘relationships’ community here on Lemmy. Can’t seem to find ones like there were on reddit.
there1snospoon@ttrpg.network 7 months ago
There were good ones on Reddit?
Uglyhead@lemmy.world 7 months ago
Decent ones at least.
themeatbridge@lemmy.world 7 months ago
“Active” is the word.
zeppo@lemmy.world 7 months ago
Yeah, I had a girlfriend who seemed to want to start fights with me to raise intensity so we could make up. It is fucking exhausting. Better than the one who started fights with me and then we didnt have sex.
nehal3m@sh.itjust.works 7 months ago
Bet she meant the ‘go fuck yourself’.
zeppo@lemmy.world 7 months ago
Sure, I explicitly said that myself