mushroommunk@lemmy.today 4 days ago
It depends on why it’s toxic. You say it’s the people but that can still vary a lot. If it’s because the other people are constantly attacking and belittling you then I’d (personally) just put my head down, do my work, and keep a hunt for a new job on the side.
If however they’re “difficult” because they’re set in their ways and don’t like change and aren’t good at expressing their point of view and you find yourself clashing on what to do and how. It’s different. I’ve found I can adapt to those kinds of people and we eventually find a rhythm that works for both of us.
I’ll also add I’ve had jobs with five different companies with people from many countries, and I’ve yet to find a job where at least some of the people aren’t toxic. I’ve sometimes had success requesting moves to teams/projects away from the most toxic people. But unfortunately “knuckle down and put up with crappy people” is what’s worked the best. But only you can know for yourself if you can do that in your current situation.
I’d also be looking for an EU sugar mama as much as possible on the side.
zlatiah@lemmy.world 4 days ago
It’s the supervisor. I’d say it may be more close to the second one than the first: bossman was trained in German academia and it shows; they are from what I’ve gathered a micromanaging person with really bad management skills that also has pretty blatant favoritism, also heard from coworkers that bossman disallowed vacations previously. Not the worst thing in the world but does appear to be pretty nasty; if I don’t want to get fired there are ways I can adapt. My coworkers are honestly quite nice atm. I suppose I will try to do both then, apply for other things while use my… currently strong arsenal tool of dealing with ppl to get through things for now
I eh will get on Hinge again and visit Luxembourg in the future 💀
ogeist@lemmy.world 4 days ago
If you are in Germany, it just might be a cultural thing, I say so myself as I’m not from Germany and had to adjust as well. But I do have friends in academia and I know how crazy it gets. If you are getting personal attacks, document them and save them somewhere safe. Evidence is very valuable if you