It really could be, yes. It could also be that she is part of the 1-2% of people that are just born sociopaths with little empathy.
Little babies can be completely overwhelming.
If you are immature or low IQ, plus you have little empathy, plus you can’t cope with your feelings… You might shake or outright smack a baby, which is fucking insane… and I think most people who do this then STOP, and they do not do it again, so they may not really damage the baby, at least not lethally…
And then there’s people who just can’t cope it all and this becomes their norm, and… I think they deserve to rot in jail.
My advice to someone is that if you are at the point where you are about to do violence, the one thing you can do… to not be judged… to maybe even be THANKED someday… Is to say, “I have some really bad thoughts that are un-maternal/un-paternal, I really have this instinct to physically harm my kid. So, I can’t be a parent. I need to surrender this baby to family or the authorities right now.”
(This is likely completely irrelevant to everyone who will ever read this but I write it because I think it makes a point and it is good advice… Like the people who have inappropriate inclinations sexually that nobody can or will consent to, or people who have violent inclinations… Just remove yourself from any situation where this comes up & GTFO as much as is relevant. That is how you be ethical.)
Lovstuhagen@hilariouschaos.com 1 week ago
It really could be, yes. It could also be that she is part of the 1-2% of people that are just born sociopaths with little empathy.
Little babies can be completely overwhelming.
If you are immature or low IQ, plus you have little empathy, plus you can’t cope with your feelings… You might shake or outright smack a baby, which is fucking insane… and I think most people who do this then STOP, and they do not do it again, so they may not really damage the baby, at least not lethally…
And then there’s people who just can’t cope it all and this becomes their norm, and… I think they deserve to rot in jail.
My advice to someone is that if you are at the point where you are about to do violence, the one thing you can do… to not be judged… to maybe even be THANKED someday… Is to say, “I have some really bad thoughts that are un-maternal/un-paternal, I really have this instinct to physically harm my kid. So, I can’t be a parent. I need to surrender this baby to family or the authorities right now.”
(This is likely completely irrelevant to everyone who will ever read this but I write it because I think it makes a point and it is good advice… Like the people who have inappropriate inclinations sexually that nobody can or will consent to, or people who have violent inclinations… Just remove yourself from any situation where this comes up & GTFO as much as is relevant. That is how you be ethical.)