Comment on I'm on the spectrum. How do I live the rest of my life?
vestmoria@linux.community 3 weeks agoYou don’t have to socialize. But being a decent person means sacrificing your comfort for others’ sometimes.
you seem to imply there’s something like a middle point between fully socializing and being decent, which I guess means talking but less? Is this so?
TheMinister@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
We all have to interact with people. That’s living in a community. But when you do, being nice is all it takes. “He’s a really nice guy, he’s just kinda quiet.” This isn’t an uncommon thing to hear about others. It’s literally a common type of person. But then there are assholes. The way you’re describing it you just don’t care to be nice and you’ve found an excuse in neurodivergence that you’re latching onto.
vestmoria@linux.community 3 weeks ago
if you mean I have to do this I shouldn’t even waste my time and look for jobs where I work alone. Step 2 is already Get to know your coworkers which for the most part, are irrelevant to me. And I can’t fake that.
Saying hi is not enough?
I have no problem with those who have something interesting to say but most of them for the most part care about stuff so asinine it makes me want to kill them and then myself.
Either I learn really fast to deflect very successfully or I start working alone. To keep my sanity.
TheMinister@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Spoiler alert: none of us actually care about how anyone else’s weekends were or how the other person’s kids are doing. You’re just being intentionally obtuse and tedious
vestmoria@linux.community 3 weeks ago
got it, you ask to fake interest in the other person so he feels valued. Seems ridiculous and a waste of intellect.
It seems the best I can do is working alone. These rituals are way too complicated for me.