Comment on I'm on the spectrum. How do I live the rest of my life?
TheMinister@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
I’ve been accused behind my back of being manipulative, uncaring, rude, and also a sociopath. Once this impression is given, it is impossible to make people change their minds, including management. I usually don’t fight it because, really, fighting gossip? that’s sticking to 5 year old level politics and what’s the point?
Welcome to being an adult. We all think it’s asinine. Some people get wrapped up and completely engrossed in it. They make petty office politics their entire existence. Some people play the game but only to rise through the ranks. Some people stay out of it. You don’t really fit into any of these categories, it seems. It kinda just sounds like you’re a bit of a dick. That doesn’t make you ND, some people are just kinda dicks.
And I don’t mean that as a slight. Some of my best friends I would classify as being dicks. But it’s everything else you bring to the table that matters. Are you so good at what you do that people put up with it? Or are you just kind of a dick with no redeeming qualities?
Finding reasons for being unlikeable or off-putting doesn’t change the fact that that’s how people see you. You don’t sound ND, you just sound like you don’t care to change. That’s different
vestmoria@linux.community 3 weeks ago
the people who criticize me are not that important to me that warrant I change to some version of what they consider better. I’ve reached a point where it doesn’t make sense anymore to try to be a better, more knowledgeable professional but simply finding a job where people leave me alone. At least I’d be happier.
I guess I’m full misanthrope now
TheMinister@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Read some ethics philosophers, not a book about whether you being rude and off putting means you’re neurodivergent.
vestmoria@linux.community 3 weeks ago
you seem to imply there’s something like a middle point between fully socializing and being decent, which I guess means talking but less? Is this so?
TheMinister@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
We all have to interact with people. That’s living in a community. But when you do, being nice is all it takes. “He’s a really nice guy, he’s just kinda quiet.” This isn’t an uncommon thing to hear about others. It’s literally a common type of person. But then there are assholes. The way you’re describing it you just don’t care to be nice and you’ve found an excuse in neurodivergence that you’re latching onto.