By getting “why do you talk so little?” and responding with “why do you talk so much?”, You’re doing what they do to you back to them.

absolutely. I answer a question with another question. Keep playing stupid games, you’ll keep getting stupid prizes.

you can say these words in the nicest way possible, and this exchange still sounds confrontational.

then why do they start it? I’m never the one pestering anyone about why they’re blond, tall, fat…