Comment on I love bpd girls
proceduralnightshade@lemmy.ml 3 days agoYou still seem deeply traumatized. The way you speak about your experience is something that reminds me of myself and other people’s communication with unprocessed traumatic experiences.
You experience is valid, but the way you generalize and demonize BPD/mentally ill women is not. You can’t expect to get any pity or validation by randomly trauma dumping in a shitposting community. Getting angry and generalizing is often the first step towards healing, but… This is not the place to do it.
kadaverin0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 days ago
You’re accusing me of generalizing/demonizing women with BPD in a thread questioning if sex with mentally ill people is “worth it”. Get off your high horse and spare me your armchair psychoanalysis.
proceduralnightshade@lemmy.ml 2 days ago
No I just don’t want to tell you straight up to just shut the fuck up. And I’m not accusing you, you obviously fucking did. You phrased it as if your experience is representative of all experiences, without any nuance, empathy, and expressed a deep grudge you still seem to hold. Nobody needs armchair psychoanalysis to tell you that that’s obviously something you still need to work on and not something to share as a reply to someone asking why BPD people bang better.
There’s plenty of ways to tell people “a relationship with a mentally ill person is a commitment and might backfire; be careful” - “she will fuck your neighbor and I almost killed myself” is arguably one of the shittier ones.
kadaverin0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 day ago
Framing something as “In my experience” precludes me attaching any objective truth to what I’m about to say let alone any broad-based assessment of a group of people. Would you have preferred “In my opinion”, you pedantic clown?
I recommend you stop trying to diagnose people on the Internet like a Redditor who just finished a required 101 course.
Don’t tone police me, asshole. I’m not compromising my sincerity nor am I going to blunt my language just so strangers on the Internet feel better about themselves. Don’t like it? Keep fucking scrolling.