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• BorgDrone@feddit.nl ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

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  ‘Being born on the wrong planet’ is a common analogy to explain how people like me (asperger or high-functioning autism as it’s called now) experience the world. We live on a planet with people who look like us, but who behave in strange, illogical, irrational and often creepy ways. It’s like living among a bunch of aliens. You people are seriously weird.

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  • Uebercomplicated@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    Yay, a fellow neurodivergent person. And yet both of us are still human. FYI, referring to yourself as non-human (indirectly) alienates you (a very fitting word here) from everyone reading your comment. Saying “[y]ou people are seriously weird” does as well. You had no way of knowing that I am not autistic. You were lucky; I am in the 99th percentile of dyslexics and not autistic at all (to my knowledge, though the conditions rarely come together). But that is a presumption you made nevertheless.

    I’m saying this because you have explicitly mentioned being autistic, and I have many autistic friends who struggle to read social stuff: alienating yourself like that makes it seem like you think you are better than everyone else (which you may; I don’t know), which in turn makes you seem extremely arrogant. Keep in mind that you are only talking to people here through the lens of social media. You do not actually know any of us, and it is dangerous to judge people you do not know. Diplomacy in cases like this calls for decorum and decency: presume the best about people. Your comments make it seem as if this is not what you are doing.

    Now that I know you are autistic, I see your comments in a different light. I will presume that you are not a spoiled rich person — which you very much seemed like due to the aforementioned reasons. But, presuming that you are not a sociopath, please keep in mind that other people around you are different and care about different things than you (maybe in part, though not necessarily, due to not being autistic). That doesn’t mean that they are invalid or should feel bad about having different priorities. Please respect that, and don’t fall into the “no one else understands” bubble, which I know all too well. (I, like probably you as well, did not have a good time in high school. Or really any school.) That bubble inevitably makes other people hate you and can thus also make your life rather unpleasant.

    This may be unwelcome advice, but I urge you to think about how to discuss topics like this diplomatically, without offending or being overly harsh to people. You have made a few enemies with your comments (just look at the downvotes). That can be a burden.

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