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lemmyknow@lemmy.today 1 day agoHmmm… interesting. Do you ever end up actually becoming close to someone? Does it ever become something natural, like, outside of business, or is it always just a “job”, so to speak? Like, do you ever become friends with someone, hang out? Not sure my question makes sense
Also, how much is one willing to go? Like, what’s the limit, here, in terms of closeness? You mention travelling, going on dates. Is there a point where you’re like, “ok, this is enough closeness” or something? Cause I assume this isn’t, like, a relationship per se. Like, a romantic one. So something like spending life together is probably out the table, I imagine. Gotta imagine at some point you have to draw a line and remind them, if needed, that you’re not in a relationship together.
Honestly, this sounds quite interesting. Minus the sex. Guess I need to find myself a friend. Or a girlfriend. Idk, never quite figured out the difference between those.
Apologies if I say something wrong. I mean no harm. Just curious. You, of course, need not answer anything you don’t want to. Be comfortable above all
genevieve@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
At this point in my career, I’m established and well-connected enough that I can be picky about who I see. These days, I mostly stick to long-term, regular clients. When you’re seeing someone consistently, of course a connection develops, but I’m a professional, and they respect that, so things never cross the line. A lot of them come to me specifically because they value that kind of professionalism and discretion. As far as boundaries go, I’m pretty flexible emotionally, I don’t really have any hard limits when it comes to closeness or connection. Physically, I do have a few firm boundaries: no girl-on-girl stuff, nothing degrading or humiliating, and things along those lines.
lemmyknow@lemmy.today 1 day ago
Congrats on your career achievements!
What exactly is the line, if you don’t mind me asking? Like, what is the difference between a girlfriend and someone who plays the role of a girlfriend?
Could you end up friends with someone? Like, not in a romantic relationship, but actual friends? I mean, I guess it’d hurt business if you befriend and start hanging out with clients, like, outside the job. I mean, I wouldn’t charge friends, but professionally, being your profession, it makes sense. But if it were to develop into a friendship, independent of business…
Also, what exactly is it they value, here? That they can… experience a relationship knowing it’s never gonna go past a line? Like, a relationship, but… not really? Not trying to diminish or lessen the relationships you have, of course. Or your line of business
Also, is it common for women to seek such experiences? Or is it mainly men who seek the girlfriend experience? I mean, thinking of the girlfriend experience, specifically. If it is a common thing with women.
genevieve@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
For me, the line is clear: no commitment, no off-hours extended interactions, none of the serious features of a relationship. I’m not interested in breaking up families, becoming someone’s partner, or changing anyone’s private life status quo. I provide a service, a fantasy. I’m essentially an entertainer, playing the role of their dream girl. You pay, you get the service. No pay, no service. That’s the boundary, and it’s strictly professional. This also answers your question about friendships or personal relationships. The value for them lies in experiencing their own fantasy. They all know this is a paid service. Their reasons for seeking it vary, some do it out of boredom, others for no-strings-attached fun, some don’t have time for traditional relationships, some are dealing with family or marital issues, and others just want a guaranteed great time. + the discretion. All of my clients are men, and I’m certain this is a female-dominated profession.
lemmyknow@lemmy.today 1 day ago
Well, a guaranteed great time sounds fun. Assuming a great time is just a wholesome, friendly thing. Not in, like, a sexual manner. But, like, hanging out, having fun. Friendly thing. I’m almost getting interested…
Thanks for your time in answering my questions!