Comment on Does people doing things that upset others also upset you?
lmmarsano@lemmynsfw.com 4 days ago
No, not in general: too much unjustified outrage & idiocy in the world over unreasonable shit. Karens, bigots, culture warriors, pearl clutchers.
There are also legitimate differences in the world, and we need to respect rights to dissent & differ.
They need to be justifiably upset. Only then is it understandable. However, getting upset over it is not generally a good move: it may lead to poor decisions. Better to stay collected, acknowledge the problem, apply fair judgement to correct the matter.
gon@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 days ago
I feel like you might’ve misunderstood the question?
When I said “upset” I didn’t mean that you would fly into a fit of rage, I didn’t even really mean that you would confront the other person (though those are things that you might do, I suppose), just that you would find that it sat wrong with you and you would feel that the other person was wrong to do it. Perhaps “upset” was the wrong word to use there, sorry about that.
That’s why I said that you already agree that the thing should be banned! The whole point is that you already think that they are justifiably upset, and that what the people are doing is wrong and shouldn’t be done.
Sorry… I did get some people before saying that my hypothetical wasn’t very good. I see that it’s caused some confusion for several people.
lmmarsano@lemmynsfw.com 4 days ago
Bans are rarely justified. Strong emotions aren’t a good reason to ban much. If there are minimally invasive alternatives, and we can let others be, that’s typically better.
Emotions aren’t a good reason for anything, really. I prefer to understand & make sense of feelings before I allow myself to indulge them in myself or others.
Judgement of right & wrong can operate on reason, and it’s better that it does.
lmmarsano@lemmynsfw.com 4 days ago
Bans are rarely justified. Strong emotions aren’t a good reason to ban much. If there are minimally invasive alternatives, and we can let others be, that’s typically better.
Emotions aren’t a good reason for anything, really. I prefer to understand & make sense of feelings before I allow myself to indulge them in myself or others.
Judgement of right & wrong can operate on reason, and it’s better that it does.