Pointing out a positive side of something isn’t muddying the waters, nor is it in any way an attempt to refute the original point. If you’re unable to acknowledge something positive about the situation then I think that’s on you, personally. Like I said, we should engage with the things people actually say, not what we think their implied meaning might be. It does not follow that being more comfortable should imply you should feel fulfilled and that is not an argument that’s been put forward by anyone. No need to refute something nobody is putting forward. It just makes it harder to have a productive discussion, nothing more.