I’m glad you tried out the threadverse, as it is always worthwhile to take your destiny into your hands by setting up your own comm to discuss a topic freely. It can happen sometimes where the instance’s culture, laws and/or users conflict with the purpose of the comm, I usually take notes and set up shop elsewhere if the conditions are better. Not to mention the drama on the fediverse can really hurt as It feels more personal with all the transparency involved. You have to block and reduce contact from the problematic individuals to make things more manageable. It is a learning experience worth engaging with.

If you want to continue with Lemmy I would suggest finding a more conservative bloc of instances to be and maybe setup your own to connect with them one day. A good way to look for one is by checking Lemmy Explorer and reading the name and rules of each instance to determine which one would one would be the best fit.

Good luck in your community building journey!