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mindbleach@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

Boomer tropes exist because divorce was illegal.

You were expected to get married and stay married. You’d have unprotected sex with your high school boyfriend, you’re goddamn right you were gonna keep the baby, and you were going to live together until one of you died. Even if it meant separate beds and not asking why he frequented that bar by the docks.

Blame Catholicism. That’s usually a fair bet.

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QuoVadisHomines@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
When was divorce illegal?

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- mindbleach@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  The US didn’t get no-fault divorce until after the moon landing.
  
  Prior to that:
  
  Divorce was considered to be against the public interest, and civil courts refused to grant a divorce except if one party to the marriage had betrayed the “innocent spouse.” Thus, a spouse suing for divorce in most states had to show a “fault” such as abandonment, cruelty, incurable mental illness, or adultery. If an “innocent” husband and wife wished to separate, or if both were guilty, “neither would be allowed to escape the bonds of marriage.”
  
  Divorce was barred if evidence revealed any hint of complicity between spouses to manufacture grounds for divorce, such as if the suing party engaged in procurement or connivance (contributing to the fault, such as by arranging for adultery), condonation (forgiving the fault either explicitly or by continuing to cohabit after knowing of it), or recrimination (the suing spouse also being guilty).
  
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  - QuoVadisHomines@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    Ok but that’s different than it being illegal. You had a legal right to divorce from the founding of this country.
    
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    mindbleach@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    As if it’s something you can go out and do and be punished for. No: it simply was not allowed. The state said no.
    
    This is stupid hair-splitting. You did not have a right to shit - you had to beg. Virginia did not grant any woman a divorce for an entire generation.
    
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    Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    mate, my parents divorced in the 80’s, the stigma was REAL
    
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mindbleach@sh.itjust.works ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
You can freely ignore the dipshit who thinks “almost nobody was permitted to divorce” means “people went to jail for back-alley divorces.”

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