That’s fairly common. Everyone wants to feel like they ‘belong.’ The trick is, it’s not a place. It’s people. There is an underlying culture in any place you find that is highly localized, even down to the neighborhood, but there are also always exceptions. You can find the sweet Berliners if you look, and the reserved, non-materialistic Americans, and the sober, minimalist Parisians. First, figure out your values. Then, find the others in your area who share those values. Unless you are living in the middle of nowhere, they’re out there.