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• Drivebyhaiku@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Well yeah. It’s openly critical of the sexual function of people who have had those proceedures. The trans community as a whole are often depicted as mutilated and less functional by transphobes or people who want to devalue them as valid romantic options. Since access to those medical services are actively under fire that critique isn’t value neutral and it isn’t in the context of what unaltered sexual function is like for people with dysphoria whom often register a marked improvement in overall function from getting over the mental blocks.

  The people I know who have had surgeries have been quite happy with the outcome. While it’s true the surgery options regarding bottom surgery for trans men require one to make some decisions about what functions to focus on, framing them as “barely functional” is insulting. Think about what it would be like to hear someone else critique the choices you’ve made that have improved your life experiences in a way that frames you as deficient and devalued.

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  • RaptorBenn@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    So I’m not allowed to say I wouldn’t undergo current treatments because I don’t think its progressed far enough?

    And in your second paragraph, see how you had to add ugly to my statement to make it malicious and false, that is you projecting onto me, not me.

    I see your whole comment as a projection of what your thoughts and internalisations are of the current state of medical transition, concious or not.

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    • Drivebyhaiku@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      And in your second paragraph, see how you had to add ugly to my statement to make it malicious and false, that is you projecting onto me, not me

      Ah so “barely even cosmetically complete” doesn’t register as you calling them aesthetically displeasing? Fuck off.

      The framing as it being a personal choice not to pursue those options are the thinnest veneer of setting yourself up for this reaction to be shocked and appalled that someone would call you out. Even if you were trans yourself framing it the way you did before would register as you being an ass to other people in your community.

      Troll behavior.

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      • beejboytyson@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        He is a good disingenuous troll.

        People who undergo affirmation surgery are told all those facts before hand. This person doesn’t know the process.

        I have a trans Best friend and asked if they just wanted to live as a gay man BECAUSE of the above facts. Thier response was " I want to live as a woman." Living a certain way is more important to some then others.

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      • RaptorBenn@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Call me a troll if you want, I think you’re a narcissistic, attention seeking philistine if we’re calling eachother names.

        My framing is how I feel about the situation, I don’t care if it offends, they are thoughts and opinions. If you don’t like it, no one’s making you respond to me, there are plenty of echo chambers that I’m sure you won’t have to deal with any ideas or opinions that arent what you already think.

        Go try and police someone elses opinions, because you’ve failed here.

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