Do yourself a favor if possible and go to another country. I grew up in the US and I was hopeless. I always had to settle and I was very unhappy. Even if you can’t just up and move, at least vacation to somewhere in Latin America or somewhere with a better, more extroverted culture for a couple of weeks. You’ll meet so many people, truly live, and gain a lot of confidence. I moved two years ago and I’m about to get married