Seems like a strange problem. I’d suggest playing more different games, and focusing on getting your hands in tune with the specific game rather than the type of game, and being more aggressive about remapping controls to fit how you want to play.

I switch games a lot and don’t generally have issues settling into a game just because its controls are off from another game, but if a dev puts something common somewhere weird, I’m absolutely going to move it to one of the places I expect it to be.